Yes, D13 means everything to me. She called me last night to ask about our vacation at the end of July. I know she's not sure if she wants to go if her mother doesn't go. (I know her mother doesn't want to go, and frankly, I don't want her there either. I also think 2 weeks without me or kids might shake W up a bit - she has never been separated from the kids.)
I told her I'd really like her to go, and we can talk about it when she gets home. I want her to come because it may well be the last time she visits my parents. And if she doesn't go, then S9 won't likely want to go. I, on the other hand, am going, no matter what. I asked D13 to keep an eye on her brother for the next few days at the water park. (I have no idea how attentive W will be while catching up with remote posse.)
SIL just called me. She and MIL haven't really talked to W yet about anything serious. They both think W is racing, in a frenzy. They think she looks bad, has lost too much weight, and she has aged a lot in the past year.
They expect to get hit up for money, and have agreed that they will only give her anything at the end of the vacation to buy gas to get her out of there. Wow. To be honest, I've been toying with the idea of not putting any money on her card so she can't get out of there. 6 weeks in a place with bad cell coverage, no texting would be good for her. Why pay to bring that set of problems back here? Ha. Ha. Just kidding. Not really.
And then this: MIL thinks that if we split, I should get the kids because W just isn't capable of looking after them. That's not something I ever expected to hear. To me, that's profound. What does it take to get a mother to say a thing like that about her daughter?
