I think it varies how long it takes to feel normal. Partly based on how long you were together. Ex and I had been together for 21 years and married for 19. I would say I started to feel more normal after about 3 1/2 to 4 years. There are moments when the kids have a hard time and that brings up a bit of a raw feeling. There are even times that I alone have those moments.

I suppose there might always be something that can set me off but I feel pretty darn good. You are getting there too. Hang in there.

kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory