I know I am struggling with the way he has handled things. The blatant disrespect and lack of regard for the boys and I. I know it's not the family's fault he's with but everyone around town knows them as not great people which is why we always had issues about them because I wanted H to get away from them.
I hope one day he will wake up. I have talked with his mother about past relationships and it doesn't seem he was a serial cheater. However he always quits at things - projects etc. he never stays interested in things. I just thought marriage and family were different from material things. That's the only thing I can attribute some of this to. That when things get hard it's easier for him to pick up and leave.
I now struggle with him sharing his life with her and her family. I fear of my boys having to be around them. I know I am biased but they are wonderful loving boys and I do not want them raised around people like them and who my H currently is. I know there's not much control I have over that but I honestly think at this moment if you told me H fell off the face of the earth and id have the boys I would be more okay than I am now. It's the thought that the home wrecker (H is responsible for majority of this I know) could be involved actively in my boys lives. That is something I struggle with. I'm not sure where my head is. I'm definitely more detached. I didn't let his negativity affect my day. When I got the text about him suing me for defamation of character I laughed and moved on with the day.
The boys and I had a great day. I had to call in sick since H decided to go out of town with OW so I had nobody to watch the boys. Can't complain about a Saturday off though! I bought them a basketball hoop since they're really into it now. We just got back from my friends house so they got to swim all day/night and play with their friends. It's nice to have adult time. My friends husband wanted to be filled in since I haven't seen him in months. It's weirdly nice to hear that random people know what a bad reputation this family has. I hope for my H that he can help himself to get out of the situation he had allowed himself to get in
