"This makes twice since posting your thread you have gone to her seeking what she is not ready to give you. This time you asked her to trust you? Why, have you been unfaithful, abusive, or something we don't know about? "
No, I have never been unfaithful. Simply wanted her to know that we can start building from trust.
About the A, both says it was just emotional and it is over.
I've always pampered her. Suggesting she stays home when I am working at our shop. Even when she wanted to go I would tell her to relax at home. Taking care of the home chores like dishes and laundry. I felt if I stopped all this it would rub off as becoming mean to her.
"What other techniques should you use?" I'm not sure at this point. I think I need to practice the STFU technique, if that's one. I guess in a way, go silent go dark. Trying to accept now that patience perhaps is the key. And I know I must GAL and detach detach detach.
