So my H is moving back home tomorrow! I'm really happy about it and just spoke for a few minutes about it. He still seems slightly down but wanted to know again that I wanted him back home, which I told him I do, very much.

I'm sure we're both cautious right now because it hasn't been an easy couple of weeks, but I really want to make sure I tread lightly. Which I just seemed to have forgotten to do on our call!

We were talking a bit about his job and how much he's been working lately, and I mentioned that I've been thinking about a possible idea we can talk more about tomorrow....I hinted that I had been thinking about the possible idea of maybe in a year or so, moving from our place into a cheaper place where I could pay the majority of the rent and bills and he could focus on the stuff he really wants to do. I said that it was only an idea, and he may like it or hate it, but I had just been thinking about it since he works a lot and maybe this would be a way to focus on something else and his hobbies, and I can put more savings away for us, etc. That didn't go over well at all!

He said "what are we gonna do if we move to X or Y? That's like the total opposite of the direction I want to go. That's freaking me out a little."

I could see I messed up and that this was HARDLY the time to bring this up, but I thought there was a possibility he might like the idea! Oops. I said "Don't worry, it's only an idea, if you hate it we don't have to do it. It's only a thought."
That didn't seem to ease his mind, so I told him to please not worry, it was just something I was thinking about, we didn't ever have to do it!

He then had to get off the phone to get back to work so the conversation was cut short a bit. Why did I bring that up?? I honestly thought it was a good idea and that he would appreciate that I was trying to make his life easier, save money, etc. Nope. When will I learn?

Anyway aside from that glitch, I'm happy that he's coming home. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know. I'm going to do my best to maintain a low profile, feed him, make him feel comfortable (it is still his house) and just welcome him back with no pressure. I just feel weird now that I did that.