Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks Devesta,
Hey our kids are like the exact same age D8 D6 S3. Next week we begin shuttling them back and forth.ugh

Thats great input. I was taking it on and off but my gut tells me to keep it on whether it bothers her or not. You are right that its really not about her and so for I just said when when asks " well this is where my heart is at" not to elaborate but keep at that answer and go about my business.

if it is not about her, why not just say that? I wonder why she bothered mentioning it, unless it annoys her as you said and if so, SHE feels pursued or pressured by it.

"W, I'm not wearing it for you, so you don't have to worry about it", or maybe the truth is, you don't know why you are wearing it...

But have zero expectations of her noticing or commenting if you keep wearing it OR if you take it off. Because like you said, it's not about HER. (assuming that is true.) Remember to CONTRAST the old you with the new you. Undermine her assumptions about you with the new reality of you.

Since you have made a few verbal mistakes that would not happen if you were briefer in your replies, why not pause BEFORE answering her R questions,

and then be very brief and or vague, or redirect the conversation.?

more later, good luck!