To touch on some things- H does not have an IC (that would be admitting weakness). Strangely, he will willingly admit he is "f'd up", but doesn't feel there's anything to do about it (pity party).
Also, I was definitely NOT validating when he was unloading his work issues on me. In fact, I changed the subject. I have told him several times he doesn't get to be my buddy. Doesn't change the fact that it's frustrating. A switch has flipped in me- I truly don't care if he's stressed at work. He has the resources to make every area of his life less stressful, but he needs to put his ego and stubbornness away to be able to do it. It's not my problem any more- which is what he wanted. I'm venting now-
I will not be rude to him, but I'm not going to be his safety net any more. I need to shift in to business mode.
And as for the rest- I have no idea! Lol I'm in Ohio. From the research I've done I am definitely entitled to alimony and I would be eligible to get public assistance. My main concern is timing- I won't be able to get a job until I take my boards next August. It's all so confusing!
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
