MDU

Please please please remember that we all here come from different places with different experiences

if your husband has felt rejected by you before then a 180 would be to not reject him...to lay your feelings bare.

not everyone's situation is the same and this is not a one size fits all kind of thing...

what works for someone else might not work for you

Listen to your DB coach...you are paying bank for that advice

we all here are only experts (well not experts but experienced) in our OWN situations