She says she's conflicted

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So she has decided to stay in the family home.

I need to set a boundary...it revolves around past sins. Not adultery, but probably worse in her eyes. Another issue is she likes to throw it up at me to get me into it with her.

Yesterday we had a text fight about it while she was on a business trip.

Then she called me and actually complained about OM, this then led me to attack not him as much as men who chase married woman etc etc.

So it's a two way street here.. I need to come up with something to say when she dwells on the past and past mistakes....just to rile me up.