Originally Posted By: claire7
That's great that you are trying to validate!

I would start with the "I'm sorry" part. If it was me, I might add, "I should have..." I may be overly sensitive, but "I was just" always hits a nerve with me. It sounds defensive (which is a huge trigger for me). Maybe it's just semantics, but I wonder if a phrase like, "I wanted to make sure S's birthday was organized, so I may have jumped the gun on planning without consulting you."

I think I would also avoid asking, "What can I do?" Didn't she sort of tell you. maybe either, "Next time I will..."


Thanks for the feedback Claire! The "I just " part always sounds like justifying actions now that you mention it. Will lead off with "sorry" end with "next time" and see how it goes...stay tuned

Me 42 W:35
M: 14yrs T:15yrs
D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs
BD: "I want a D"09/03/14
Sep: 30/06/14

Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.