I had my interview today and am almost certain that I hit a homerun or atleast a triple.
The only thing is:
The guy told me that there were a few strong candidates still and one thing that may hurt me is my lack of video experience. 95% of my experience is with audio and this is a major televesion broadcast center that overseas hundreds of stations around the country. It is all video. Even though I have had some video training in broadcast school, it was years ago. He even told me that I was a strong candidate and I interviewed very well but....the other candidates.
I need to know soon.
Hopefully I will.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Great job. And you also learned what they are looking for in the current job market in case you don't get this job. Why don't you go and learn video? There are many resources online and you can also get a handle on being a social media marketer while you're at it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Thanks MrBond. I may check into it. I really need to do something.
I'm just a little dissappointed. Even though I am still in the running and I still may get it, I was just really hoping to find out something today.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Ug....still have heard nothing about the job. Now that it is Friday, I'm guessing I won't hear anything until next week now.
I'm pretty bothered today. I'll explain:
A couple of weeks ago XW and S23 got into a pretty bad argument. It was basically him chewing her out about all that has happened.
Today, for the first time since Valentine's Day, she came over to pick up S19 for the weekend. All four of the boys were home, but S21 was sleeping because he works overnights.
When she got here, S19 and S28 went out to greet her and visit for a few. She asked about S21, but he was sleeping and did not go out. After she left, S23 asked S28 if she asked to see him. She did NOT. I can tell that it really bothered him. It seemed to bother him a lot.
What can I do?
I felt really bad for him.
Even as much as I have lost, I think in the long run, she is losing and will lose so much more. I'm also realizing that even though our boys are grown, this has really affected them too. They basically have no mother. She has hurt me AND THEM more than she'll ever know. Or atleast more than she'll ever know for a while...
Tad
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Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
The destruction she has caused in all of this just blows my mind.
Going to head to the pool with a cold one.
110 here in Phoenix tomorrow.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Of course you hate seeing your son hurt. What kind of father would you be if you didn't?
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Even as much as I have lost, I think in the long run, she is losing and will lose so much more. I'm also realizing that even though our boys are grown, this has really affected them too. They basically have no mother. She has hurt me AND THEM more than she'll ever know. Or atleast more than she'll ever know for a while...
Yes Tad! That's what I've been trying to tell you for years. But it's not her that's losing the most. It's the kids.
I can only imagine what it would be like to lost my mother and yet have her still on the planet. It would rock my world to the foundation at that age. I did lose my mom, but it was to cancer. A bit more final and not as bad (to me) as if she had lost her mind and rejected me and my family for her own gain.
You and her? You both lost a lot, Tad. But both of you are capable (you more than her) of regaining and rebalancing. You went through this as a younger man and know what it's like to have your family torn apart, right?
It's tough to deal with and having your father help you is absolutely golden. Having your father help you understand you can't control others or how to not be treated like dirt, yet remain authentically you, is platinum to a young man
Glad the job front is still percolating. Keep at it!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I can only imagine what it would be like to lost my mother and yet have her still on the planet. It would rock my world to the foundation at that age. I did lose my mom, but it was to cancer. A bit more final and not as bad (to me) as if she had lost her mind and rejected me and my family for her own gain.
We had a tragedy in our area a few weeks ago. A man drowned while saving a teenage girl who was caught in the undertow. He was long married and father of four. We have mutual friends and I found myself jealous as my friend described the widow clutching his t-shirt for days.
I was jealous because I didn't get that luxury. I didn't get to grieve my husband so openly in that way. I was jealous because my kids didn't get to honor their dad or feel the support of an entire community. My kids had to face the ugly truth about their dad as opposed to honoring him as a father and husband.
While those kids get to hear story after story about what a Great Dad this man was...my kids are reminded daily how their father rejects them and put himself before their needs.
I don't know the answer, but as a survivor of my own Dad's MLC...I know the hurt runs deep and will be with them forever. That requires a special kinda parenting for the parent left behind to clean up the mess...A lot of sensitivity and honoring of their feelings--the good, bad and the ugly.
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"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
I can only imagine what it would be like to lost my mother and yet have her still on the planet. It would rock my world to the foundation at that age. I did lose my mom, but it was to cancer. A bit more final and not as bad (to me) as if she had lost her mind and rejected me and my family for her own gain.
Yep!
I have felt lots of times and even posted on this board that death would have been easier. Not easy, but easier and different. I don't even like feeling that way, but it is true.
You're right about the kids too. Even though mine are older, I'm sure it was still very hard on them as well. I sometimes forget about the garbage that they have had to put up with.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Wow sounds like you did a great job on the interview! I wish you all the luck in the world! Don't give up!
I completely identify with your boys and the relationship issues with the XW. Im dealing with that everyday here.
I became infuriated with XH for how he treated D14 two weeks ago in regards to marrying the OW. I also confronted XH about it, but have chose to step OUT
