Hit the magic 100 on a forum I thought I'd never post on like the rest of our community.
Feeling good today. Having another small talk with WAW. In the past she complained I never took responsibility and left everything in her hands so in the past few months I have been reasserting myself. So after a few months of 180s in this I tell her I have a place booked for our son's birthday. She then gets mad and says "Why are you always taking care of things and not giving me any input?" so it looks like i swung too fast in the other direction...*sigh* just looking for the happy medium now.
Gonna lead off with a validating:
"I was just taking care of it(S bday). Sorry for not taking the time to include you in this, you must feel pretty mad and hurt. You love him as much as I do. What can I do to help you feel more included in the decisions we make?" Trust me this doesn't come easy to me and I feel like i freeze when we finally need to speak and I am trying to validate.
any thoughts?
Thanks
Me 42 W:35 M: 14yrs T:15yrs D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs BD: "I want a D"09/03/14 Sep: 30/06/14
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
