The day my Dad moved out was the day before cheerleading tryouts. I had worked my A$$ off for these tryouts.

I came home from school and my dad had removed everything from his closet and left. I was the first one home to see he was gone. I think I was the one to call my mom and tell her the closet was empty. I remember the feeling.

My mom gathered her friends and she sat on the couch crying while I practiced my cheers in front of everyone.

My point is...the kids often get lost in our pain. It's so easy when you are feeling this enormous hurt to not have anything left for your kids who are hurting too.

Cheerleading was important to me on that day, but it was overshadowed by my Dad's insanity.

Your W is crazy right now. Dwelling on it won't change it. I wish I had pushed my feelings aside and been braver for my girls now that I look back.

Just pick some small, manageable things you can with your girls this weekend where the focus in on them completely. COMPLETELY. Let them guide the conversation. If they don't want to discuss W, then let it be. This will remind them how valuable they are to you.


Last edited by LoisB; 06/21/14 04:19 PM.
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