I'm 4-5 yrs into this. The pain is no more. Not that i don't remember things but the pain is gone. I can live my life on my terms.
I say this not for you to feel bad but to understand there is a way through. There is a new life waiting for you. Slight changes in the way you view things can go along way in changing your perception.
Other people on this board have shown you the map, now its your job(You actually owe this to yourself) to walk it.