Of course you hate seeing your son hurt. What kind of father would you be if you didn't?
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Even as much as I have lost, I think in the long run, she is losing and will lose so much more. I'm also realizing that even though our boys are grown, this has really affected them too. They basically have no mother. She has hurt me AND THEM more than she'll ever know. Or atleast more than she'll ever know for a while...
Yes Tad! That's what I've been trying to tell you for years. But it's not her that's losing the most. It's the kids.
I can only imagine what it would be like to lost my mother and yet have her still on the planet. It would rock my world to the foundation at that age. I did lose my mom, but it was to cancer. A bit more final and not as bad (to me) as if she had lost her mind and rejected me and my family for her own gain.
You and her? You both lost a lot, Tad. But both of you are capable (you more than her) of regaining and rebalancing. You went through this as a younger man and know what it's like to have your family torn apart, right?
It's tough to deal with and having your father help you is absolutely golden. Having your father help you understand you can't control others or how to not be treated like dirt, yet remain authentically you, is platinum to a young man
Glad the job front is still percolating. Keep at it!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
