Long term marriage - husband quit!

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Thank you,, Cadet and Labuan.
Have done some intensive reflection out west, have read, meditated, prayed, talked poor peoples heads off for 10 days straight.

I still don't want to label MLC, or WAS, because it really does not marrer, but from all I read, I decided my plan..

My unofficial view, gathered in many pieces and parts, is that there are stages to this syndrome. For about the first three to four months, there is absolutely nothing you can do as the left behind spouse.
Your best, and only recourse is to 180 for self protection and growth.

The second "stage" comes around the next 3 - 4 months. In this stage the WAS starts to have some doubts about their descisiion. It is in this period, for lack of better words, stage two, there may be genuine interest (tho small sparks) of interest by the WAS.

Of course, ow/OM play certain roles in this timeline...

The thing to do is continue 180 and not slide from the positive growth from your hard work. If you notice signs of reconnection, communication, you are on the right path, I guess. Try other positive for you changes and see if it has an effect.

So, in my honest opinion, I really should 180, and hold off decisions for another
4-5 months from now. At least. Labug right on the nose!

If I can hold off divorce proceedings.

The important part is to read the books and work on yourself and children's future. This site has been a godsend and wealth of info!