Fear is my struggle too! I feel it everyday! Everyone here feels fear. Detaching is so scary for me too!
I love my WAW so much that sometimes I hurt physically. My stomach is often in knots. It feels just like the feeling you get when you are on a scary rollercoaster or about to give a speech to a stadium full of people. It's anxiety (fear).
You're no different from me or anyone else here.
Every single person that saved their marriage here, went through a ton of pain to get there.
You can do this TO. Will it hurt like hell? Yes. Do you love your WAH enough to go through this process?
I know the physical pain you speak of. And I totally agree. I just need the stubbornness and fear to exit and be overcome with what I know I need to do. I struggle with accepting he doesn't love me or that he doesn't want me in his life as his W, that he has rewrote so much history that he can't even remember the good times anymore. Especially now that he's admitted he's with her he is SO different to me SO cold. He doesn't even come around. My dad said he can't come here anymore because of his own guilt. That's why he's never been able to look at me
