Thanks Starsky and Wondka. I really appreciate the advice and support as this is obviously a very, very delicate time in the process.

What you posted really resonates Starsky, if he's really ready he won't need me to push it. Besides, I think he's had enough signals from me at this point to know that there's still an opening. I've done enough.

Having said that, I'm feeling a little confused by your advice versus Wonka's. Wonka is saying NOT to put conditions or boundaries out there...yet I keep thinking this is prime time and his adherence and implementation of them would ultimately start to prove he is willing to do the work to 'earn me back' (as you mentioned). Needless to say, I'm confused how to tactically put these pieces of advice together..

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14