When something seems in doubt, sometimes I like to think about the worst "What if I'm wrong?" scenarios.
On the one hand, if I'm wrong, and you should really be pursuing him more and making the way home easy for him . . . and you don't . . . then you have two ways it could go. 1, he wasn't sincere (or ready, or equipped enough) and you've lost nothing. 2, he IS sincere, and he IS ready, and . . . what? He will keep pursuing. He's NOT going to give up that easy just because YOU weren't that easy, not if he's really ready and willing to do what it takes!
On the other hand, if YOU'RE wrong, and you let him back in too soon? Well, this forum is littered with those poor souls, as it's probably the #1 mistake people make when DBing in my observation.
I would add to that, you can ALWAYS "throw a little more 'pursuit' on the fire," but you CAN'T take it away if you leap too fast. He'd be in your home, back in your (and your kids'!) heart(s), and he won't have done the hard work necessary to fix his stuff and earn you back.
