So collected the D today from WAW and had a chat with her after our row. We both apologised and said we shouldn't have rowed like this within earshot of D.
We talked candidly about plans for selling home and, despite what I said in the posts above, I offered to go guarantor. The reason? I will be remaining with my dad which gives me, for the first time ever, substantial disposable income to enjoy life ie GAL and live a little after struggling for years supporting my family. As such I am fine with securing a home for my D and reassurances from WAW that if anything did happen in future that could result in me being liable for rent that she would ensure that it doesn't. Although I suppose this can never be certain!
Anyway, we briefly talkedabout our chat on Sunday and the fact that supposedly she has a new man. And one thing struck me which has been mentioned in other posts by vets....I LISTENED TO WHAT SHE WAS SAYING and I noticed something for the first time but which has been a recurring thing when she has discussed our breakup.... she said that I needed to give her the space that she give me when we broke up before. Now this may not seem substantial to anyone reading this but she has said this at least a half dozen times to me. It is as if she wants me to step back to see how she feels about herself, about us and about her future and what she wants.
I told her I hoped she would be happy with this new person. She said she hopes so too and then jokingly said would I like to know his name.... WTF!!! What did that mean. Then she again brought up the fact that I had dated a girl in recent months. Truly it was for a bite to eat and cinema but I realised immedately that I could not hurt her because I loved my WAW. My WAW asked me what did she look like and a few other things that I now forget. But I wonder why she did that?
I know we shouldn't try and mind read but this converation today got me thinking. Is she testing me? Does she still have feelings for me but is scared of me going back to my old ways?
One thing I can say is that I feel much better that we are getting on again and patched things up despite the fact she might have another man. Another thing is I feel really good knowing I am going to have money for the first time in years to do things Ive always wanted to do and take my D places whenever I feel like. My first counselling session will start next week and I know there will be blips along the way but as of right now I feel much better.
ANy thoughts on what my WAW said would be greatly appreciated.


M 35 W 31
D 10
Married 3 years
Together 11
Single since Nov 13
Moved out Dec 13
ILYBNILWY, 'I don't want to be a boring housewife, 'I don't fancy you any more'
OM confirmed Jun 14