"Q: Do you always want to be the "driver" again in a brand-new marital relationship with him? Were you happy being the one to always do that?"

Honestly, I never particularly minded it. I don't think this was a big problem for us, at least not one he has mentioned yet. I don't mind making plans for us, initiating state of our union discussions, etc. Occasionally I wish he would initiate a bit but I wouldn't say this is a major issue for me. As long as he is happy to participate and not just going along with the program.

There are other things where he has always been the driver (bills, most home maintenance items, etc), but tending to the MR has been primarily driven by me (needless to say, I've unfortunately let it drop in recent years).

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14