Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 3

[25yearsmlc]

Iwish

First, no text "conversations" are good. Seriously. They are meant to convey short simple messages such as "i'm on my way", where to meet for dinner, things needed at the store.

I cannot imagine a serious "talk" by text, being helpful. There's no way to gauge how the other person means it, or whether they are distracted or busy or looking at their watch as they say "i love you", etc.

It's NOT a good idea and in your case, I'd stick to simple facts that are truly needed, before I'd give more than a few words in reply. Your text conversations freaked me out b/c they seemed like a LONG LONG LONG needless spat between teenagers who can't spell well.

Sorry, but I literally forced myself to read the first one the whole way thru and could not do it a second time...I couldn't stand reading that much trivial repetitive controlling stuff.

You have a few serious issues and you must get some counseling for them. The controlling HER that you want to do, and lack of control when it comes to yourself, is appalling. Please, do work on that.

As for GAL, well frankly, for you to list 'housework and Playing video games" as GAL, just shocks me.

For me, those "activities" constitute what I mean by NOT getting a life.

I mean, what were you doing BEFORE you chose to "expand" into housework & video games? Were you just napping, eating and going to work?

Life has more to offer IF WE GO GET IT...but the 'offer" is not something that falls in our laps.

playing video games, to me, is more of the same teenage behavior that helped get you here. It's NOT GAL. GAL means by definition going beyond your typical activities., GROWING...in some way...

okay so, here we go...


For GAL suggestions, let me mention I did these things when we lived in the interior of Alaska, including in the winter.
I had 3 kids, including a baby (so you know I don't want to hear about how 'busy' you are, or 'too busy' to GAL or how you don't know anyone.

I moved there knowing only my h and kids).

In short, You MEET NEW people...or you will never know another person other than your childhood friends...

Inertia is the greatest enemy to GAL. Overcome that, & you'll be well on your way to a happier, more fulfilling life. IMO, the more you overcome your avoidance to real change, that inertia, the better your R's will be with all people, including your w.

I volunteered at a battered women's shelter.

I coached a girl's softball team, two summers (my older D was on it).

I was on the board of directors for Wrestling, (b/c our son wrestled).

I auditioned for community theater and met some fun creative people. I got cast, too.

I did stand up comedy (and yes, I still do it). I did a whole set once on a MLCs at the Improv. It went very well.

I learned to cross country ski, became a better shooter.

I Learned to hunt big game, to deep sea fish, & I got better at downhill skiing.

I learned to use a snowmobile ("snow machine" to Alaskans)
I loved riding it and being outdoors.

Learned to fly an airplane, and I got a pilot's license.

I Edited a book. (The book ended up on the Best Seller's List. Who knew?)

I Worked out 3-4 times a week, and I really did get in excellent shape. Looking good made a world of difference to me. (Plus I'd just had our last child and needed to lose the baby weight. It was not easy to do, let alone in the dark, deathly cold of the Long LONG winters).

Saw a therapist and for some months, went on ADs.

Took a pottery class (very odd for me to do, but I liked it a lot).

Joined the Officer's Wives club, after 15 years of active duty & not having joined.

(Wish I had joined sooner! Met two women who are life long friends to this day.)

Joined a writer's group

Took a class in Conversational French

Took a class in Italian cooking

There is more, but I just wanted to suggest to you a few things you can do that do not cost a lot. Other than pilot training, most of these ^^ activities were free, or quite cheap.

SO....I ask you this:

What club/group/organization can you JOIN this month?

What class/language/craft can you EXPLORE this month?

What activity/hobby or sport can you take up, this month?

What outreach or charity or church group or volunteer activity can you DO this month?

pick at least 2 from this list of questions, and get started on really, truly, changing your life, THIS MONTH. The rest is all talk...= "all Show, and no go".