I kinda understand how you feel, I guess we all do in a way
The in between is horrible and keeps us in what feels like a hold pattern.
When I mentioned something like this on a post before, I was advised to not look at it like "being on hold" If we just focus on GAL and some 180's and figuring out ourselves it is a lot easier...
I dont know how to put it in words..but I try to pretend like my H is really a room mate, not easy at all.
I also try to pretend that H is a guy I like, but not sure if this will turn into something long term.. Ex When I 1st starting dating H I was not hanging around waiting for him to call, I was strong and made decisions on my own...etc
I also try to stay in the mind set of if H does not realize the great woman that I am, then in the end it is his lost!!! Be that great woman.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW