Good morning all, Last night I didn't go to a GAL event I had planned. For some reason I just didn't feel like it. I am starting to get a little depressed as my W removes more and more of the things that we had collected over a life time to take to HER new place. She has wanted to be alone and away from the stress of family for a long time and this is her escape. Of course, there are many things I'll be glad to be rid of and she has stuffed our small home with so many "things" but she isn't taking those things, yet.
I got a call at about 9:00 last night from my W. She says "Do we have a long piece of pipe?". When I asked why, she said she had a flat tire and she can't get the lug nuts off. She didn't ask for my help other than the pipe but I asked her where she was and told her I didn't mind coming and helping her. On my way I get a call from her BF's boyfriend (not BF since she knows that I know that she has been telling my W that I will do "awful" things to get back at her!) asking if I was on my way as there are a bunch of guys with my wife and she didn't think she was safe. I get there and she had the lug nuts off. The guys had helped her and left. She was saying she wanted to do it all on her own and didn't need my help. She had her owners manual out and was trying to figure out how to work the jack. It would have been funny if it wasn't for her "I don't need you" attitude.
So, I told her that it was fine, I don't mind helping her when she is in trouble and changed the tire. She kept going on and on about how her father made her change a tire when he taught her to drive, she just needed a pipe, she was fully able to do this. For my part I just ignored that and fixed the dang tire. She was thankful and I told her when I was done that I really don't mind helping her and she can always call me when she's in trouble. She said that was the same for me if I needed help but added that changing a tire might not be something she can help with. Since than she has thanked me several times.
I'm so sure that so much of the reason she is leaving is that she wants to be seen as able to take care of herself. Her BF and the people she works with all are D or single and it is a big thing for them to be able to be self sufficient, not need a "man". I'm sure my W really didn't want to call me and ask for help.
Part of me wishes I had been out last night and not available to come and help her. She needs to see what being on her own is really all about. Of course, I really didn't mind and would have helped a stranger in the same predicament if I saw them. I'm thinking about getting her a length of pipe to keep in her car for the next time she needs to fix a flat.
Another thing I have noticed is she is now talking to her father several times a day. Before he came to take her to the lawyer, he hardly ever called or texted. Since then (and since they found out his cancer is back) he is always calling and she is always texting with him. This just helps her as she is getting what she has wanted for so long from him now that she is doing what he has told her he wanted her to do for years, leave me! They say that women who leave like this all have someone who is giving them support and in her case, it surely is her father. So sad that a scum bag like him gets what he wants while so many good , innocent people have to pay the price! Yes, I know it's not his fault all this is happening, it's what my W has decided she "needs" but if he would have just stayed out of our lives things would be very different.
