Thx to everybody for chiming in here . im suffering alot and im trying my best . Goatgal is spot on with my emotions controlling me , but i dont have to tell you guys whats thats like . GALing is proving to be difficult because i seem to have the kids on all of my free time . Does spending alot of time with my sons equate to getting a life . because when i do she is left alone with her thought s and lots of time to go with other men .Rayzzz im sorry about your position too. it seems like you have a better handle on things but remember Im also dealing with her affair . Speaking of her affair , ive detached myself so much in the last two weeks i dont even know what the status is of the affair ( wether they are slipping or getting closer or planning any moves , I have no idea what the current sitch is ) which is probably healthier for me not to know . But i feel vulnerable when I dont know whats going on .


Me 45 W 45
Son 16 Son 14
Married 23 together 27
W threatened sep several times
W still at home
A discovered Mar 17 2014
A ended DEC 2 ( skeptical )