Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 3

[MrBond]

"Ok I will use words such as understand and its her wishes.. I have a plan mrbond and I thank your patience with me."

Stop coming up with "plans". They are messing you up.

"I just want an understanding why I shouldnt say its about her? Would it not make her feel like wow even though it hurts him his doing it for me.. he listened to what I asked for?"

NO! That is not the reaction she's going to have. She's going to say, God I can't wait till he leaves. He irritates the sh*t out of me.

"Heres my plan
Do what you said..
Listen to everything you say either I like it or not."

Hold on here. You still don't get it. You have to actually UNDERSTAND why I'm recommending you do certain things. If you don't like it, then go ahead and keep doing what you're doing. Don't blame or put the responsibility on others and their advice just because you don't want to do the work to learn. In fact, you haven't even finished reading the book.

"I wont contact her until she contacts me
I will not check up on her in any shape or form"

I would very surprised if this happened.

"I will not answer her calls if I feel emotional and return it once ive prepped myself so when im in a happy mood
If she calls some calls ill answer
If she txts ill reply back in short txts"

Why don't you explain to all of us why you will be doing this?

"I will busy myself by going to the gym"

For what? And once you're done with the gym, then what?

"Since ill be back at my mums and in my area I will see my friends an go play pool,tennis football and keep myself happy"

Which won't have you learning anything about your sitch.

"If she calls and says shes going out or anything I have prepped myself to have the word test pop up in my mind.. she will expect me to say what time are you coming home, who you going with, where you going.. instead I will say ok well have a nice time"

End it here. I sincerely doubt she'll be calling you, but if she does, dont tell her that you expect her to tell you how it went.

"Try to quit smoking and get myself in good health for my sake.. and not mention it to her.. if she goes out with me for coffee then I wont mention it but let her notice.. thats my new thing now.. let her notice.. never mention"

Notice what? Just getting yourself physically healthy isn't enough.

"I want her to know im doing it for myself.. im a changed man.."

No you're doing it as a trick to get her back. Then once she's returned, you are going to go right back to the way you were. Just a suspicion I have. Go ahead and prove me wrong if you can.
How does this sound mrbond?"