Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 3

[Barrybran]

I just want an understanding why I shouldnt say its about her? Would it not make her feel like wow even though it hurts him his doing it for me.. he listened to what I asked for?

Heres my plan
Do what you said..

I want her to know im doing it for myself.. im a changed man..

You're not a changed man. Right now, you're a mouse on a wheel thinking it's getting somewhere when it is actually running on the spot. When you actually start doing the work, only then will you get off the wheel and start moving forward. Don't talk about what you're going to do. Grow some balls and just do it.