"Im going to tell her im going and im doing this for you and make it all about her ill try my best not to contact her at all until she does."
STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP! Geez do you learn ANYTHING! I don't know how much clearer I can say this. IF YOU TELL HER THAT, YOU WILL LOSE HER. Just pack up your stuff and say that you respect her wishes. Say that you understand what got you to this point and understand how she feels.
DO NOT tell her you're doing it all for her.
Ok I will use words such as understand and its her wishes.. I have a plan mrbond and I thank your patience with me.
I just want an understanding why I shouldnt say its about her? Would it not make her feel like wow even though it hurts him his doing it for me.. he listened to what I asked for?
Heres my plan Do what you said.. Listen to everything you say either I like it or not.
I wont contact her until she contacts me I will not check up on her in any shape or form I will not answer her calls if I feel emotional and return it once ive prepped myself so when im in a happy mood If she calls some calls ill answer If she txts ill reply back in short txts I will busy myself by going to the gym Since ill be back at my mums and in my area I will see my friends an go play pool,tennis football and keep myself happy If she calls and says shes going out or anything I have prepped myself to have the word test pop up in my mind.. she will expect me to say what time are you coming home, who you going with, where you going.. instead I will say ok well have a nice time and let me know how it goes. Its a test Try to quit smoking and get myself in good health for my sake.. and not mention it to her.. if she goes out with me for coffee then I wont mention it but let her notice.. thats my new thing now.. let her notice.. never mention
I want her to know im doing it for myself.. im a changed man..
