Possilble WAW

[rayzzz]

Dawgy,
You are getting the Lion's share of advice as the lot of us are swooping in to help you. I am in your sitch. I am just packing our rental house now...she goes to her parents with kids, I go to my bachelor friends place as a new roomie...fourteen years married. Told her parents and our kids these past two weeks. Completely devastating but my WAW is feeling the effects of my DBing. I am 180ing and she is noticing. Stopped pursuing her and being an unattractive needy H. Acted "as if" (DB principle!) I was going on with my life and was pretty happy and had confidence I could live without her. She is looking at me different....confidence is making me a bit more appealing and confusing her. Being mysterious is starting to work...but its only been three months...some veterans here say its eighteen months...there is no number but persistence. I should be freaking out now. both our WAW are leaving us about the same time.
But I am 4C...cool, calm, collected, confident (ok the 5th C is cry like a baby...which i do away from her but then pull it together) I know she needs to miss me and work on her stuff.Everything in me wants to smother her with kisses and hold on to her for dear life.... but gotta stick with db plan.
Say this mantra when you are losing it over her:
"I don't have time for this (anxiety, pining over her) I have work to do. Let go Let go Let go -detach"
If I can do it you can. Get to work and make yourself the kind of man your wife would never wanna leave. Be strong