Possilble WAW

[GoatGal]

Hi Dawgy,

Sorry you're here.
It's past my bedtime and I'm using my phone to write this so please forgive typos.

I read your sitch and wanted to lend you additional support.

You've been getting good advice; take it to heart.

I can tell your biggest struggle right now is calming down and getting ahold of yourself, your thoughts and emotions.

I was the same way. It's "Freak Out Mode"!

You're not going to be any good until you can slooooooow it down and get centered.

Panic is a horrible feeling and it keeps us from acting in the calm way we need to for DB.


For me, I got an Rx for Valium short term to get some sleep and get over the hump.
I don't think it's for everyone, but I was on a really scary ride I just HAD to get off.

The other things that helped me were doing "guided meditations".
You can find tons of them on YouTube, just find a few you like and do them a few times a day, or whenever you're getting wound up.

Out thoughts CREATE our emotions, so start by replacing the negative "OMG!!!" thoughts with something more positive, like:

I am a strong man, I am resilient, I will get through this... Put your body in a "Superman" stance, and SAY, OUT LOUD.
"I am STRONG AND I WILL BE FINE. I will take care of my children and THEY will be able to count on me."

You all go ahead and laugh! This DOES WORK!

When you catch yourself ruminating over your wife's actions,

Picture a BIG RED STOP SIGN.
STOP those thoughts, take some deep breaths, and replace them with empowering thoughts about YOURSELF and how YOU are going to handle this.

Your wife is going to do whatever she will.

You need to take care of yourself and get a handle on things.

Write out sandi's rules.
Make a written plan (where it's private) about how exactly you are going to implement those rules.

Give yourself a focus for all that frantic emotional energy you've got right now.

You're feeling FEAR, which is normal, but has to be gotten under control because you know what they say about "the scent of fear", right?


It shows you're vulnerable to attack.
And we don't want Dawgy to get eaten by tigers tonight.

He has a lot of DBing to do.

Get your tail out from between your legs and start channeling "Mighty Dog"!!!


---GG