When we were about nine months into our relationship, H (then boyfriend) and I got into an argument about an event I wanted him to attend with me. He didn't want to go. The argument never got heated but somehow it got more intense, and finally I said, "Are you breaking up with me?" He said, "It's just not what I want," and walked out.
I waited three days (during which I couldn't eat or sleep; but I did read Men Are From Mars...) and on the 4th day sent him an email that said, "Are you really never going to talk to me again?" He replied, "I'm sorry, I guess I was just avoiding this," then called and made a date to come and make dinner at my place (he had three rowdy roommates and I lived alone). We "solved" everything that night, fell back madly in love again, and were engaged three months later.
(I didn't go to the event, either)
"This is just not what I want" is exactly the line he gave me when he asked me for a separation. (I am absolutely certain that he did NOT cheat on me on that occasion)
Prior to our three day break up he was feeling pressured by me; prior to our separation he was feeling very pressured by me...
I guess I'm trying to decide if there is a connection between those two incidents.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
