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Not giving up! Not today!

Thornton #2461800 06/19/14 08:39 PM
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Good attitude. Getting stronger?


M:33
W:30
T:10 M:2
B/D: 5/27/14
S: 5/28/14
Wife moved back in 7/18/14
Ben2010 #2461802 06/19/14 08:45 PM
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I'm still up and down. But the downs aren't lasting as long as they used to.

After work: gym, counseling appt, and time with daughter!

Thornton #2461806 06/19/14 08:59 PM
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Sounds like a good day. The NC seems to really help out alot with the smoothing out the ups and downs. I hate feeling like my world is destroyed because I just talked to her.

In other news, I talked to the dentist today and looks like I get to be a 33 y/o man with braces...The good news is that shes in the family and they are only costing me $500. Have to wear them for 6 months too...


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Nice! Straight choppers!

Ben2010 #2461830 06/19/14 11:14 PM
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Shared this on my thread Thorn but my new PMA is:
" I don't have time for this. I have work to do" and then the added jewel of "let go.let go. let go" (think I found it by wound fool) Just not having time for anxiety or thoughts of WAW. Continuing instead on the bloody open heart surgery of self change.
Battle on man.


Me 42 W:35
M: 14yrs T:15yrs
D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs
BD: "I want a D"09/03/14
Sep: 30/06/14

Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
rayzzz #2461839 06/20/14 12:13 AM
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The pain goes away after a while. Keep dbing and posting my friend


M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden





Rick1963 #2461849 06/20/14 01:20 AM
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Thanks Rayyzz and Rick.

Just met with MC. We talked a lot about codependency and establishing healthy relationships outside of the primary relationship. He's challenging me to get out more with friends.

I also told him about texts from WAW. He thinks she's knocking on the door and testing the waters. He agreed that I need to not be selfish and pursue her. By giving her space and time, I am respecting her decision to break up. It's actually a loving thing to let her be right now.

Not easy to do, but it made me feel better that I am respecting her wish right now.

He predicts she'll reach out again and suggested I test the waters a little bit too. Not pursuing, but staying friendly and eventually sending her a text or email.

Basically everything I'm being told here.

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Everything except that last sentence to the second-to-last paragraph! Don't you dare do that part Thorn LOL! Great to hear you're hanging in there!


ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14
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