Thank you for the responses, I am 39, my husband is 32, the first time he cheated was 5 years ago, I was suffering major anxiety at the time, we had a business that we were trying to get out of, he was working in a pub 60 hrs a week,and our son was 18 myths at the time, the recent infidelity occurred last November, again I was suffering anxiety and was involved in a business wwith a lot of negativity around it, our twins are very full on and I think a lot of issues surrounding his father's sudden death (he found his dad) three years ago are starting to come up. I know 5 hat I have contributed a lot to where we are with neediness etc, I'm petrified it's over..
