Advice Needed- setting boundaries

[Sam3]

Thanks for the responses. I did consult a couple of lawyers, just so I know what he can & can't do financially because I am dependent on him.

So, I confronted him on Sunday night about OW. He says they are just hanging out & just friends. Because he is still coming home every weekend & we are living in the same house, I told him he was not going to be communicating with her while staying here. I told him it was disrespectful to me, our children & our family home. That is my boundary. They were texting back & forth 10-15 times a day. And the context of the texts indicate more than friends.

But, my boundary is no communicating with ow while staying in my house. If he is just here to spend time with kids then they can take a break or he can see the children somewhere else.

I told him because its all too easy to delete texts - I am expecting access to the phone call/ text logs. If he's communicating with her while in our home.
I am filing formal child visitation forms until a temporary order goes with the divorce filing.

I "think" he takes me seriously. Because I am. I have watched him text & call her every weekend for a month. But, I was scared to confront him. The situation is toxic to me.

He told me he called Ow on Monday & told her he would not be communicating with her anymore. I did not ask him to do this. I actually told him he could do what he wants that I have no control over him.

He tells me he would like for us to try to work out our issues very slowly.
I'm not sure if I'm ready to tell him that is what I want or if he's trying to play it cool and lay low with OW for a few weeks.

We have both been seeing a marriage counselor, I have been 4 times. He has been twice. We are going tomorrow together for the first time.

Been doing pretty good with my 180's. As a stay at home home with very small kids its easy to be in a "rut".

Going to a friends in home skin care party next week. That's my start of GAL.