RULES is where you went wrong. You are in NO POSITION to lay down rules. All you can do is make requests and have a plan for what choices you will make FOR YOURSELF if chooses to ignore them.
Seriously. She's grown up enough to get married and to get her own flat. Why on earth would she do anything you demand? Are you aware that she is not under any obligation to do so?
Rules are different from boundaries.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
