Possilble WAW

[pilot]

You just said giving her space has worked. Then do more of it. Give her more space. Become even more detached. It is tough yes. But it is the only way you are going to make progress. You say she can handle you in small doses. Give her no doses. See how she learns to handle that. Your only chance at saving your M is for her to realize ON HER OWN that she cannot live without you. The problem is she has come to the conclusion she can right now. And that was probably based on months or years of hurt BECAUSE of you and certain behaviors. So take this time to identify what those behaviors are, and work on doing 180s. Work on correcting everything YOU did wrong, and do not worry about what she is doing wrong. You fix what you did wrong, all you have left is what you do right, and that is the person your W fell in love with and could not live without. She will notice you working on you, even if only a little bit at a time. Use this time wisely as Cadet says, and work on yourself.