Continuing my DB journey part 3

[woundedfool]

So many things going on... But detachment is going to be a common theme here:

I'm not in a good place. I don't get how he can do this to us.

He isn't doing anything TO you. (sure he he doing things without you). Your good or bad place is only determined by you. Think about it, your in a bad place because of how you feel about 2 people. One of which you have never met, and the other you have not had a conversation with in several months, and when you did have conversations.... he wouldn't know the truth if it was staring him in the face. Does that sound rational? Remember... LET GO, LET GO, LET GO.

How he needs to constantly get validation and post everything on Facebook.

It seems alternatively, you look to FB for self validation, via his life.... Furthermore, you are looking for self validation via the "friends" he has recently acquired, and you have never met. LET GO, LET GO, LET GO

I don't get how someone can let their daughter be wjth a married man with 2 children. I guess there's a lot I will never get. I don't get that you leave your wife for a teenager and then make it out that you JUST started dating.

Its not for you to "get", Let go, let go, let go

He went from saying it was because he was unhappy and I never appreciated him to now he's not home because of my dad. Because of issues he has with my father. My father - the one he calls dad and the one he has reached out to 'because he's all he has'

Yep, remember when dealing with WAS, scripts will change on the fly. Actually its less of a script and more of Improv. Trying to keep up with the scrips, and trying to wrap your mind around it will only continue to drive you nuts. Let Go, Let Go, Let go.

I know this is not the man I married.

Its been said ad nauseum here, but I might as well say it again: That guy is gone, the aliens have him. He might return, he might not.

I know that but I don't want to do this for the rest of my life.

You are only doing it as long as you stay attached. The moment you detach, this stops having such a dramatic effect on you and your family. Let Go, Let go, Let go

I can't believe he's taking her up north in august.

What does him taking an American Pie vacation with 18girl have to do with anything in YOUR life? Let go, Let go, Let go