Wife is Continuing Affair-When do I Start LRT III

[mattben]

I'm in a similar situation. My wife is in an affair and says she needs time before she ends it. I've read the DR book and am starting to put it to use. One of the problems is that I started therapy last week (only 2 weeks since BD) and my therapist told me to tell her that I can't compete with OM. That conversation went okay, but now my therapist said to remind her of that again this week and to tell her that I may call OM. That did not go over well (setback). I think I need to continue practicing the DR techniques and stop taking my therapists advice. Maybe I should tell my therapist my goals and ask the therapist to concentrate on me and not on my R.