I completely understand dawgy. Read the OLDER stories. Or go to the forum list and seek out the success stories, or even to reconcilliation/piecing ones. Click on the names and find post, then find their original. If you just read the recent ones here on Newcomers, yea, they will all be bad news. But those are also helpful because they are usually just a few steps ahead of you and their actions are pretty fresh and probably things you are about to do right or wrong.
There is no quick answer nor magic pill to take the pain away. I know you hear it, but it does get a little better over time. Detaching IS the best way to numb the pain, so I would really focus on that. I am S so that helps as well. Best of luck and I will be following you.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16