Not Confused...Insane in the Membrane

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Hi all,

Coming here to vent and take any lashings or advice that one wants to offer.

I had a setback yesterday...not a setback for saving my marriage...a setback for me and my progress of moving forward with my life...a lot has happened, I should start from last week.

Shmoopie (from here on = STB-Ex) has been harassing and pushing my buttons for a week now.

Last week, the little support I was getting while Shmoopie is almost $14,000 in arrears stopped. In following up with the courts, Shmoopie was terminated from employment last month with no forwarding info on a new job, and he is not collecting unemployment which would be garnished. The courts originally wanted to schedule an enforcement hearing, but they want him bad and have decided to put in a "Notice to Appear in ten days". Meaning, if his highness doesn't go to court within ten days, then a bench warrant and license suspension will happen, and even if he does, it might happen anyway if he cannot comply with what is set forth in court that day.

Shmoopie also sent me an email on Thursday claiming he had to work on this upcoming weekend and wanted to switch. I told him NO as me and the boys had plans, including my son going to an amusement park all day Saturday for a field trip, but he was more than welcomed to pick up his kids for his "Father's Day" holiday. Shmoopie's response to this was to bring his girlfriend and her child to my house when he picked up our boys and verbally attack me in my driveway..."What do YOU have to do this weekend?, I HAVE TO WORK next weekend, you aren't being reasonable." I ignored him as much as possible and told him none of his business and re-iterated what I said in my email back to him.

Sunday, Father's Day...didn't come to pick up the kids because his "brakes were shot"...is this the same guy who wanted to have his kids all weekend? I guess he couldn't use his girlfriends car to pick up the kids like he has done in the past...I digress...

So the icing on the cake...last night he picked up the boys (with OW and her kid) for his visit and again, cornered me in my driveway by stepping in front of me and blocking me from walking past him. TELLING me that he is not picking up the kids this weekend (his weekend), he doesn't have the "money" I have to pay for a sitter, and how I am being inconvenient because I kept the kids away from him for five months and now I won't switch weekends with him.

The moment he blocked me from walking past him was when I lost it. I repeatedly told him how the kids are his responsibility and asked how did he think I did it when I worked...I pay for a sitter or find someone to watch my kids. Asked him why his "capable girlfriend" couldn't watch the kids, and told him that he needed to figure it out and stop relying on me. He yelled how I am wrong, and how I'm the one who kept his kids away for five months...I wanted to snap back (because clearly Shmoopie wants to play the victim, even though he has chosen to have other priorities than his kids for the third time since he has resumed his visits). But then the OW looked at me and started laughing and that's when my skin started to boil.

I went back in my house, grabbed my kids, and went to the PD to report a harassment complaint...I refuse to go through this every other day he picks up his kids. I could have gotten a TRO as the cop did say he (and OW) are definitely harassing me. Encouraged it actually, but I declined as I wanted it documented only...Shmoopie is in enough crap that I don't need to help dig his grave, but, if it escalates, I will do what I need to do to protect myself.

The take away to all this is that Shmoopie is clearly jealous of me, the chaos he wants to cause and the things he said about what I have and don't,...shows that he is INSANE. This man still thinks he has a right to OUR HOUSE and advised me he will do what he wants....that entitlement attitude...it never gets old. I can't wait until the judge tells him to bounce with what he took from home in December 2012 (that's when he left). Would you believe he said I harassed him AND OUR CHILDREN in OUR driveway...

I was angry and un-nerved yesterday, but I have to keep reminding myself that losers like him get theirs. I guess a year and a half later, still blaming me for everything...why can't he go away and leave. That's what he wanted, got it, and still feels he is entitled.


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