Realized that I never responded to Maybell about this. My IC told me the same thing. I've realized that I was unhappy in the M too. In an ideal world, we'd both (my H and I) be able to grow in positive ways and find new, better love for each other. I still believe it is possible. Difficult, yeah. But man this D stuff is difficult too! But if he is not able to do his own work on himself, or see the value I can bring to his life, or the benefit to our D3 to working on our M, then I think I probably am better off without him. I am still doing the work for me... and my next relationship will be healthier and happier because * I* will be healthier and happier.
