NLT - One of the reasons he is doing this is that I have stopped all communication. But I stopped all communication because he doesn't seem to be able to stop being abusive!
The woman he is marrying isn't the one he left me for (she is long gone) reports range from boring, unattractive, and deeply dull, to my middles son's who dislikes her , and he is someone who gets along with most people. And my xh can be a charmer. Sociopaths often can, when they want to be.
I live around 300 miles from where he lives, and in a small community. I think it is very unlikely that he would ever show up on my doorstep. That isn't his style. Also I have people to stay periodically, and he couldn't be sure of catching me on my own unless he knew my movements.
He doesn't recognise his own anger, or guess the source of his unhappiness. It is all directed at me. And the children periodically, although more and more he tries to get along with them. But after this period of time they have their own lives, and there isn't an xh shaped hole in it.
I still miss who he was, of course I do, but he simply isn't there any more. And sometimes that makes me sad. But curiously this really awful behaviour makes me realise just how impossible he has become
