Like a moth to flame

[MrBond]

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that the NC isn't always best. First of all, if you want to reconcile with your W, you're going to have to talk to her at some point. And the majority of the time it's not going to be from her wanting to fall back in your arms.

She's a new person. You can take the time to learn who that person is. That's the image she's projecting to any new people she meets. Second, the more you talk to her, the more you'll start to learn her likes and dislikes. Use those to your advantage. Knowledge is power.

What did you talk about during your last interaction? If there was a subject the two of you talked about on a pleasant note, then take note of it and repeat. You can't do that if you don't talk to her.

I'm not saying that you need to call her every day. But it wouldn't hurt to send her a little message every now and then.