JL, maybe you should go a little gray with him. No pursuing--don't ask him out. I really think that he needs to be the one to come to you.
So, start doing things for yourself. Don't worry about him or what he is doing for awhile. Be nice and 'up' if he calls about anything---no R talks!!
And look goooooood!!
You know, I don't think that my H started really looking my way again until he felt that I was moving on and getting happy again. I know you were probably dropping in on my thread once in awhile and read that H had told his M that I seemed happier now. Mentioned that to her several times. He was probably thinking I was moving on with my life, ready to let go--and really, he was right--I was getting there.
I got to the point that I was letting go, maybe accepting that the D was going to happen--I couldn't control that.
I flirted a little with him--just to let him see what he was missing. But I never started in about the R or us. Us was over. I treated him like a friend. Talked, smiled, laughed, joked. Of course it took me a long time to get to the point that I didn't feel like I was faking that.
So the D has been put off, but he's also backed off a bit. So who knows where I'll be in a few months. Over here on piecing, or in surviving.
