Old dog seeks new trick

[Old Dog]

In the past 3 weeks however I have discovered a lot more about relationships and personalities and judging from what she says and what I have found, I believe I have a dependent personality. I can readily identify with some of these traits and feel I know know exactly when and where they started. This was when my parents moved the family to a place I absolutely loathed and I was left 'alone' to get on with it. I obviously learnt these 'skills' which enabled me to survive, but which affected my ability to have a close relationship with people.

What are your plans for addressing this?

I have started going to counselling again.

I also have two very supportive flat mates when I'm away from home who are very willing to talk.

So knowledge, understanding and willingness to look at yourself is the first step.

My difficulty is that sometimes I feel it's just talk. Obviously it helps a great deal but I want practical steps. This is why DB has interested me, but I also know it won't be like mending a [insert manly item here].

I do feel overwhelmed by it all though and wonder if I can do it. I know I have to do it. For myself. And if I am reading these forums correctly, if I am lucky, my wife will see it may be worth having another shot at it. But that would be a bonus.

I have to say it that frightens me as I don't feel so strong right now.