Possilble WAW

[PeterV2]

Im praying that she doesnt leave and giving the space up is extremly difficult . Especially when it feels like your saying to her that i dont care anymore , go ahead and leave > I dont want her to think that . Im willing to give her all the space she wants as long as she knows that i havent given up .

1. Pray to yourself. Don't tell what you're praying for.
2. Give the space up. Give her space to herself. Take your own space for yourself.
3. You're not saying to her that you don't care anymore. You do care about her, not for her, and you detach your emotions from what she says and does.
4. Tell her calmly that you don't want a divorce and leave it at that. Don't elaborate. Don't repeat it. Like Sandi says, the WAW is not hard of hearing. Repeating that type of message is akin to pressuring. You cannot pressure - that's pursuing and it will drive her away.
Just be happy and not too chatty. Act as if you're getting on with your life, with or without her. But don't tell her you're getting on with your life with or without her. I tried that and it backfired a bit. Maybe it did affect her but the initial response was, oh you want to meet someone new? (I said no, I only have eyes for you - again pursuing - bad.)

Here's a quote from the Tao Te Ching which I find extremely relevant:
If you want to shrink something,
you must first allow it to expand.
If you want to get rid of something,
you must first allow it to flourish.
Let your workings remain a mystery.
Just show people the results.