"The Show Must Go On"

[LoisB]

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now I can see that there is no way I can stay married to this man. He is toxic. I want so much to see the good in him. But I have to face the truth.

THIS is the crux of the matter for you. Your H didn't change overnight from a wonderful guy into this obnoxious crazy A-hat. He had issues all along that you ignored, and now you have to let go of your fantasy about who you thought he was.

You can mourn the loss of the dream, but you should be RELIEVED not to be married to his craziness anymore. And you need to work on looking at your issues that led you to think his brand of crazy was ok to pick, so you don't pick it again.

Thanks K. This really helps me today too.

Wishing, I can't wait for this to be over for you and the kids. What an A-Hole. Your H NEVER ceases to amaze me.

I get caught up in memories of who He USED to BE. My brain can't seem to wrap around this strange, insensitive person he IS TODAY. But, K is dead on. There were warning flags and I ignored them.

And, there wasn't a damn thing I coulda done about these red flags anyway. He wasn't willing to face his own shid. So, I guess my regret is not taking better care of myself sooner and seeing the writing on the wall.