Hi Starsky... you are correct but I cannot post more than that online... if you want more, I will tell you in a different form.
I promise, I am not making it more complicated...it is what it is...ATM.
Is a legal personal document "good enough" until we are able to make it a corporate one? The personal document declares me as a 49% partner and its a pretty good deal. I will have a lawyer review it.
Matt ... Thank you. However, when he says that kind of stuff, I think he means it like I am capable of finding a much better/wealthier, etc man than him. Whereas, he feels insecure & knows that I am irreplaceable. <<<<< I just don't get him!!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Try this. Imagine you are a rotund balding 50 year old MALE business executive who happens to be his unofficial partner and your interest is in getting that squared away and on paper before he gets hit by a bus.
If your partner then groped you and made comments about your rich future sugardaddy while you were having these discussions, you would consider that beyond the pale, completely unacceptable to the point of outrage.
You are no different from that partner. Just because you're a woman and have been in a relationship with him in the past, there is NO difference. Treat yourself with the respect you should command from him.
Ignoring his comments is a step up, but respectfully stating that they are inappropriate in this business negotiation would be more clear.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
how I didn't "care" to enquire what his comment meant... I didn't really analyze it.... nor, did I really notice it when he first said it.
I have a couple of concerts lined up in the next few days, normally I would be afraid/concerned, etc of telling him (feared his anger/comments, knowing that he feels I am not "partnering", etc)...F-it! I don't really care.
Said NO to coffee offer today.. just cuz I can. I don't "have" to appease his "coffee connections" that keep me hooked, knowing thats what he "says" he is doing.... I will have coffee when I want it...
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
how I didn't "care" to enquire what his comment meant... I didn't really analyze it.... nor, did I really notice it when he first said it.
Good job.
Make one of personal goals as to not feel obligated to give him notice or an account of your private life. You should find it gives you a sense of power and detachment. Telling him your plans that are on your own time is old habits. Break free from it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Wow! This thread moved very quickly and it's time for a new one since this one is over the 100 posting limit.
Magic, keep up the good work on the 180's!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
