W will be leaving early Friday morning with kids on vacation for 2 weeks to her mom's place.

She has been asking for weeks for the last 12 months of bank statements because she thinks I am hiding money. I've been reluctant to fork them over, because a) it's an affront, and b) she'll share them all over the place.

I've printed out a set of them to take with her to satisfy herself, because a) it will take that ridiculous reason for "not trusting me" away so I don't have to hear it anymore, and b) it all comes out in the filing anyway, if I go that route. I'm beyond caring what posse thinks anymore.

I also printed out the last 12 months of cashflow - spending by category. It kind of made my blood boil to see what we are spending on. When I took a hard look at it, except for losing half my assets, from a cashflow position, I'm better off without my W, even taking into account alimony and child support. She is just plain irresponsible. I'm really sorry I didn't address this much earlier in our M. Some good money fights would have done us good.

Anyway, if she's smart, and adds up the insurance, mortgage, taxes, utilities, she'll quickly see she can't afford the house. (Her current thinking is she'll keep the house and let me have my 401Ks.)

Still wondering what to say to her as she leaves, knowing full well how generally ineffective words are. I'm thinking I'll just encourage her to turn her cell phone off for 2 weeks, and enjoy the solitude.

I considered the ultimatum route, but I don't want to jeopardize my upcoming vacation (hopefully with the kids). And that would be controlling, and I don't do that anymore. The only thing I have left to control is when close the door.

Everything I have done in the last 8 months has been to make me better, and everything she has done in the last 8 months has been to sabotage the M and drive the wedge deeper. No use telling her that, either. Happy not to be living in the hole she's dug, and the lie she's living. I can't image abandoning all my core values. What's left after that?

It will be very relaxing for the next 2 weeks with just me and the dog. I must smoke a shoulder and have some people over while I have the place to myself.