It's been a while, but things are improving

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He now wants me to answer his letter, kind of give him the things I saw as being the problems in our M, then he wants us to actually sit and TALK

JL,

I just wanted to reply, hang in there this is a long road to peicing everything back together.

As far as getting your thoughts together on what you saw as problems, I suggest looking at an emotional needs questionare to get your thoughts started. Click here: Emotional needs and read each emotional needs and fill out the questionare. It give you an idea on both the things he does for you and the things you need him to do.

When talking about it be sure to also (and probably start) with the things his does that are good currently, then what he did that was good, then go to the things he hasn't done that you need. Since he already wrote you his stuff, I don't know that its necessary for him to fill out. But its a great sign because men like to "fix things" and I take this letter and willingness to talk to try and fix the R.

A reminder about this as well. There may be things that you feel you cannot do or will be difficult. This is a time to come together and barging for what is common between you and want you can trade to meet eachothers more important needs.

nikatnight has a thread where we are talking about this, maybe if you post his stuff he thinks needs to be changed as well as your we can give you tips to make things happen and be better. Focus with him on eventually coming up with specifics on what you both can do to change those problems. Much like DB action oriented goals.

Good luck.